I’m taking a break from posting for a few days, until we work things out and we can all settle back down into work again. Hopefully by the end of the week.
I got an interesting comment from someone. Not a blogger, just a person, maybe a lurker that finally decided to comment? I require email to post, so in response to this comment I emailed. I know the internet is filled with lots of different people. Sometimes it’s scary to think you can have some great horse person here and a creep next door. I know Mikael at Mikael’s Mania - Arabian Horses has been through similar things with some people. In response to this comment I wanted to go over some assumptions. On the internet you have to be aware that YOU as the commenter, have no credit to your posted name, no matter what or who you say you are, especially when you show up from no-where. Just because someone has a horse-related name or says they are a horse person doesn’t automatically give them the right of passage to be suddenly a ‘trainer’ or knowledgeable on all things horse. I could say I’m a doctor living in palm springs, but that doesn’t and shouldn’t just give me sudden credit nor does that mean I actually am one.
I’ve blogged on here for almost two years. I wanted to start blogging because I wanted a place to write, or type, down all my experiences with my new horse. Not to give reason for people to assume information about me or my personal life. When I blog on here I usually try to stay as horse-related as possible, but then again my life also revolves around my horses. So both usually go hand in hand. I also encourage ALL people even thinking about commenting to do so, because you can always learn something from a different perspective. With that, I finally got a, not spam, comment from someone that was something I never had gotten before. I’m not surprised, actually I think it has a good point to it, but also was offended. I’m probably giving this person credit that shouldn’t be given by writing a whole post on it but I feel it needs to be addressed. I’m going to defend myself when necessary and clear up things when needed.
First things first. Addressing a comment, when you do comment assume nothing. If I say that my horse is “quick” for example, that leaves many questions to be had. What does ‘quick’ mean in this case? Aggression, under-saddle behavior, spooky? If you use “quick” as a way to describe a fast horse under saddle, maybe someone uses it to describe an aggressive horse that is “quick” on the ground. So ask questions. Get solid answers that clear up your questions.
When reading a blog also take into account that although you have public access to a blog, that does not mean that you can suddenly forget manners or respect and hide behind your computer screen. In some cases blunt comments can be said, but doing so in a more respectful manner is always the FIRST route to take before leaving a comment.
When leaving a comment, usually you have to leave a name. Often times one you can make up without any registration and some blogs don’t require an email address. I personally prefer that the commenter leaves an email and I now moderate. If you feel like you want to leave a comment, you should feel confident behind what you say or express and therefore comfortable to leave your valid email and/or web address. If you feel like you need to hide behind your computer screen, then chances are your un-sure or un-comfortable with what you’ve typed. Why would you feel that way? What are you motives behind leaving that comment? Answer those before clicking submit. If your un-sure on you motives don’t comment OR try taking a different route and ask questions to figure out if your point is indeed something that this person would benefit from.
Lastly, the infamous statement regarding blogs and blog commenters: “If you don’t have the spine to sign, then don’t whine.”
In going through this or-deal it was and is stress-ful. By writing about it on the blog I don’t intend to complain or whine. We all go through tough times, I’m no different. I’m not a person who likes things done for me. I work for what I have, appreciate what my parents have done for me and always make sure they know that. I’m lucky to have a mom who is actively involved in horses with me. We share the love and responsibility to properly care for our horses. I’ve ALWAYS gotten reward out of doing anything revolved around my horses. I would clean stalls all day in a heart-beat because I love doing anything that can get me that closer to horses. I’ve taken the care for my horses seriously and that is why I am always evolving, learning, gaining in my skills and knowledge as a horse owner. I could have had a show horse, boarded at a full care facility if I really wanted to, but that’s not for me. I took in Ink because I wanted to go down that path. I’ve loved on him, cared for his needs and took to this with a positive out-look. By no means have I ever whinned or complained about doing that.
During these last few days my horses have not been ridden. We are moved to a different place temporarily right now and they will be back in their normal routine as soon as we are settled. But I don’t think that puts me in the bad horse owner of the year category. I don’t even know where the heck I come off as a drama queen but I don’t know how to address that. All I know is that in the situation we were in it wasn’t a “boarding” place. I wasn’t dis-respectful, dramatic or rude. By writing it on here, I was just venting. I think that is fine.
Well I’ll be back as soon as we’re settled into our new place.